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22 April 2018 @ 03:53 pm
You couldn't make it up  
I have to tell you this story, yesterday while I was having the rust reapplied to my hair, my hairdresser and I were talking. She tells me, mum and my long suffering other half that she is off for a girlys break later in the year. We all nod and say
this sounds great, (but if you know my mum and I’d said I was going away with the girls for 4 days to Magaluf, she’d say we were all slappers and our husbands should forbid us to go) and then she tells us about her friend Laurel who should be coming with them but she doubts it will happen. The reason Laurel won’t be going is she asked her husband for permission to go and he never answered. Now this is his way of saying no, and according to Laurel he never says no when she asks to go out with friends or have a weekend away, instead he gets really awkward and refuses to speak to her for days. My response was “Huh he’s an amateur, try weeks at a time.”

Me and Steve could barely look at one another as mum berated Laurel’s husband as a controlling manipulative git because it sounded very familiar. Mum never says no if me and Steve want to go away, or if I want to see my friends I’ve made online, but it goes very quiet in our house or mum starts rows, or she speaks to me as if I’m something she’s just trodden in. Hearing her saying she wouldn’t stand being treated like that was absolutely hilarious because if me or Steve was to point out she does the same she’d call you a liar.

Then she wonders why I leave telling her about going to cons until the last possible minute! I remeber when I went to the Hunter Girls meet up in London, I told her about a month in advance and she refused to speak to me for three weeks. But I’ve told her about Creation and Crossroads and she wasn't too bad, but I still haven’t told her about the SNS at Creation, that’s one row I’m trying to avoid for as long as possible. In the end I’ll just swear blind that the girls have clubbed together and brought me a ticket for my birthday so I can’t possibly let them down. And that’s reason why I’ll have one eye on the clock and be ready to sprint for the train, because mum is already sniffy about me doing two cons this years, she’d have a fit if I stayed over twice!

You know it would be tragic if it wasn't so funny!.
Current Mood: frustratedfrustrated
milly_galmilly_gal on April 22nd, 2018 04:29 pm (UTC)
O.o *chokes on her own tongue* Well - I got nothing other than head desking and maniacal laughter - You know that, right? I mean you KNEW what my reaction would be, RIGHT?! LOL.

Edited at 2018-04-22 04:29 pm (UTC)
sasha_dragonsasha_dragon on April 22nd, 2018 05:36 pm (UTC)
LOL! funnily enough that was my reaction as well, you really can't make it up.
milly_galmilly_gal on April 23rd, 2018 11:23 am (UTC)
It was like reading about my own Mama ;)
Echostir_of_echoes on April 22nd, 2018 06:27 pm (UTC)
Arf doesn't mind me wandering off, but my mother when she was alive was a nightmare. She'd insist on staying over at mine while I was away, leaving my children to swan off around the country.
sasha_dragonsasha_dragon on April 24th, 2018 12:12 pm (UTC)
Steve's much the same, his only stipulation is I can afford it without raiding the family piggy bank. Mum takes the view I'm a terribly selfish person for wanting to leave my poor long suffering other half (and more importantly her)so i can go gadding about enjoying myself.
Echostir_of_echoes on April 24th, 2018 06:41 pm (UTC)
My mother had an issy fit when I said I was going to America for a week, she never let me forget what a selfish person I was.
preciousgotaprettymouth on April 22nd, 2018 06:27 pm (UTC)
That really sucks. I know I've read about it before, but that was when I knew you less. I can't imagine things like that going on! You're too good of a person *hugs*
sasha_dragonsasha_dragon on April 24th, 2018 12:13 pm (UTC)
you kind of get used to it, but sometimes she just takes my breath away, this time she just made me smile!
preciousgotaprettymouth on April 24th, 2018 02:43 pm (UTC)
I suppose you do. And good for making you smile.. lots of people tell others they're doing wrong and don't realize they do it themselves lol.
Dizzojay's Dean Dreamsdizzojay on April 22nd, 2018 08:47 pm (UTC)
Hmmmm.... a startling lack of self-awareness there, I would say!
sasha_dragonsasha_dragon on April 24th, 2018 12:15 pm (UTC)
Believe me, mum is very lacking in self awareness especially if it something negative.
My Huntermeus_venator on April 24th, 2018 04:36 am (UTC)
Aww, that's so sad. I mean I can understand being worried maybe the first time. I know my mom was the first time I met unknown SPN fangirls, but after that. : ( Life is too short to stay shut in though. Keep doing your thing!!! We only go around this big ball of mud once.
sasha_dragonsasha_dragon on April 24th, 2018 12:19 pm (UTC)
Mum wasn't always like this when dad was alive she was a little braver, but once we'd lost him she began to turn inwards and now just about everything frightens her. i keep trying to tell her life is too short to be miserable, but mum seems to think if she keeps me on a tight leash I'll be a dutiful daughter and stop wanting to have friends she disaproves of.